http://helpwithkidsbehavior.com Get help with kids behavior problems whether ADD, ADHD, ODD, or just plain difficult kids Sun, 06 Dec 2009 16:58:16 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 http://helpwithkidsbehavior.com/dont-be-afraid-to-discipline-the-commonsense-program-for-low-stress-parenting-that-improves-kids-behavior-in-a-matter-of-days-stops-naggling-and-hassling-relationship-creates-lasting-resul/comment-page-1#comment-45 kimporterfield@home.com Sun, 06 Dec 2009 16:58:16 +0000 http://helpwithkidsbehavior.com/dont-be-afraid-to-discipline-the-commonsense-program-for-low-stress-parenting-that-improves-kids-behavior-in-a-matter-of-days-stops-naggling-and-hassling-relationship-creates-lasting-resul#comment-45 I am the mother of a nine year old boy and a six year old girl that were beginning to take control of the house. I tried everything, but nothing stuck. Don't Be Afraid to Discipline really works! It is easy to implement and can be tailored to any family's special needs. Friends and teachers have been so impressed by the change in my children that they have all requested the title of the book. All that have begun the program are ecstatic! Privilege chips seem to be the key with my kids. They are even doing extra chores in order to earn extra chips. My son recently turned in 20 chips for a new computer game. He was proud of his accomplishment. So was I. Life in my household is calm now. The house is neater, the kids are happier, the parents are happier. We have more time to enjoy each other because the daily expectations/chores are taken care of without a fuss. My kids are self-sufficient in many respects. God bless Dr. Peters. Her program has been the answer to my prayers. Rating: 5 / 5 I am the mother of a nine year old boy and a six year old girl that were beginning to take control of the house. I tried everything, but nothing stuck. Don’t Be Afraid to Discipline really works! It is easy to implement and can be tailored to any family’s special needs. Friends and teachers have been so impressed by the change in my children that they have all requested the title of the book. All that have begun the program are ecstatic! Privilege chips seem to be the key with my kids. They are even doing extra chores in order to earn extra chips. My son recently turned in 20 chips for a new computer game. He was proud of his accomplishment. So was I. Life in my household is calm now. The house is neater, the kids are happier, the parents are happier. We have more time to enjoy each other because the daily expectations/chores are taken care of without a fuss. My kids are self-sufficient in many respects. God bless Dr. Peters. Her program has been the answer to my prayers.
Rating: 5 / 5

]]> http://helpwithkidsbehavior.com/dont-be-afraid-to-discipline-the-commonsense-program-for-low-stress-parenting-that-improves-kids-behavior-in-a-matter-of-days-stops-naggling-and-hassling-relationship-creates-lasting-resul/comment-page-1#comment-44 Lisa Phillips (cabbagepatch@msn.com Sun, 06 Dec 2009 16:49:23 +0000 http://helpwithkidsbehavior.com/dont-be-afraid-to-discipline-the-commonsense-program-for-low-stress-parenting-that-improves-kids-behavior-in-a-matter-of-days-stops-naggling-and-hassling-relationship-creates-lasting-resul#comment-44 This book is the most complete book I have ever read about disciplining children. I adapted it to fit my 4 year old daughter, and the change is remarkable. The Behavior modification chart can be used for any age, even adult children living at home. I am recommending this book to everyone. Rating: 5 / 5 This book is the most complete book I have ever read about disciplining children. I adapted it to fit my 4 year old daughter, and the change is remarkable. The Behavior modification chart can be used for any age, even adult children living at home. I am recommending this book to everyone.
Rating: 5 / 5

]]> http://helpwithkidsbehavior.com/dont-be-afraid-to-discipline-the-commonsense-program-for-low-stress-parenting-that-improves-kids-behavior-in-a-matter-of-days-stops-naggling-and-hassling-relationship-creates-lasting-resul/comment-page-1#comment-43 Anonymous Sun, 06 Dec 2009 14:36:02 +0000 http://helpwithkidsbehavior.com/dont-be-afraid-to-discipline-the-commonsense-program-for-low-stress-parenting-that-improves-kids-behavior-in-a-matter-of-days-stops-naggling-and-hassling-relationship-creates-lasting-resul#comment-43 This book is absolutely readable! You learn real-life approaches to dealing with your kids! This is not a book of psycho-babble. Rating: 5 / 5 This book is absolutely readable! You learn real-life approaches to dealing with your kids! This is not a book of psycho-babble.
Rating: 5 / 5

]]> http://helpwithkidsbehavior.com/dont-be-afraid-to-discipline-the-commonsense-program-for-low-stress-parenting-that-improves-kids-behavior-in-a-matter-of-days-stops-naggling-and-hassling-relationship-creates-lasting-resul/comment-page-1#comment-42 Blondie Sun, 06 Dec 2009 13:34:01 +0000 http://helpwithkidsbehavior.com/dont-be-afraid-to-discipline-the-commonsense-program-for-low-stress-parenting-that-improves-kids-behavior-in-a-matter-of-days-stops-naggling-and-hassling-relationship-creates-lasting-resul#comment-42 As the mother to four strong-willed kids ages 19 down to 5, and I have read many discipline books and tried various methods over the years. This one is the best, hands down. I have been using behavior charts based on Ruth Peters' book for a few years (of course, I don't use the charts with my 19yo, but I do with my others - ages 11, 8, and 5 right now). My children get compliments from even from complete strangers on how well-behaved and polite they are, and how nicely they get along with each other. Dr. Peters has another very good book written for parents of preschoolers called Never Too Early to Discipline. Also highly recommended. My house is calm and peaceful, my kids are happy. The wonderful thing is, this can be accomplished without yelling, nagging, threatening, or spanking! Read the book! Rating: 5 / 5 As the mother to four strong-willed kids ages 19 down to 5, and I have read many discipline books and tried various methods over the years. This one is the best, hands down. I have been using behavior charts based on Ruth Peters’ book for a few years (of course, I don’t use the charts with my 19yo, but I do with my others – ages 11, 8, and 5 right now). My children get compliments from even from complete strangers on how well-behaved and polite they are, and how nicely they get along with each other. Dr. Peters has another very good book written for parents of preschoolers called Never Too Early to Discipline. Also highly recommended. My house is calm and peaceful, my kids are happy. The wonderful thing is, this can be accomplished without yelling, nagging, threatening, or spanking! Read the book!
Rating: 5 / 5

]]> http://helpwithkidsbehavior.com/dont-be-afraid-to-discipline-the-commonsense-program-for-low-stress-parenting-that-improves-kids-behavior-in-a-matter-of-days-stops-naggling-and-hassling-relationship-creates-lasting-resul/comment-page-1#comment-41 Anonymous Sun, 06 Dec 2009 11:07:41 +0000 http://helpwithkidsbehavior.com/dont-be-afraid-to-discipline-the-commonsense-program-for-low-stress-parenting-that-improves-kids-behavior-in-a-matter-of-days-stops-naggling-and-hassling-relationship-creates-lasting-resul#comment-41 My husband and I have been married for five years. He has 3 children from his first marriage and his ex-wife is the classic "emotionally needy parent" plus she is having problems with alcohol abuse. When we had visitations with the kids we would have an adjustment period of 2 or 3 days. After that their behavior would usually mellow out and the rest of the stay was okay. Recently DCFS stepped in and ruled that the children were no longer safe in her care and turned them over to my husband and I. The children are 14, 12, and 9, plus they have a 3 year old half sister that was given into our custody. Our house has been a combination zoo and war zone since they arrived. My husband and I were at the end of our ropes when I found this book. She has been the answer to my prayers. Rating: 5 / 5 My husband and I have been married for five years. He has 3 children from his first marriage and his ex-wife is the classic “emotionally needy parent” plus she is having problems with alcohol abuse. When we had visitations with the kids we would have an adjustment period of 2 or 3 days. After that their behavior would usually mellow out and the rest of the stay was okay. Recently DCFS stepped in and ruled that the children were no longer safe in her care and turned them over to my husband and I. The children are 14, 12, and 9, plus they have a 3 year old half sister that was given into our custody. Our house has been a combination zoo and war zone since they arrived. My husband and I were at the end of our ropes when I found this book. She has been the answer to my prayers.
Rating: 5 / 5

]]> http://helpwithkidsbehavior.com/mini-methods-or-madness-small-steps-that-make-big-changes-in-your-kids-behavior/comment-page-1#comment-40 Midwest Book Review Wed, 02 Dec 2009 12:05:43 +0000 http://helpwithkidsbehavior.com/mini-methods-or-madness-small-steps-that-make-big-changes-in-your-kids-behavior#comment-40 Written by licensed therapists Janie and Roger Peterson, Mini Methods or Madness: Small Steps that Make BIG Changes in Your Kids' Behavior is a practical-minded collection of simple "how-to" techniques to teach children better behavior while cultivating enduring bonds with them. Each method is easy to internalize and use, such as the importance of limiting excessive verbosity used to communicate when a child is naughty (an estimated "one word per year of life" sentence structure is recommended when communicating parental displeasure), the giving an immediate consequence for unacceptable behavior, refraining from yelling at children, and refraining from giving warnings, which only reinforce the idea that obedience is not required the first time a child is given an instruction. In addition to useful strategies, Mini Methods or Madness also offers a plain-terms overview of why these techniques work and why other methods such as negotiating with or bribing children, or continually repeating instructions without enforcing consequences, rarely have the desired effect of improving behavior or teaching children the self-control and discipline they will need as adults. Enthusiastically recommended for parents, babysitters, and anyone who works with children on a professional or personal basis. Rating: 5 / 5 Written by licensed therapists Janie and Roger Peterson, Mini Methods or Madness: Small Steps that Make BIG Changes in Your Kids’ Behavior is a practical-minded collection of simple “how-to” techniques to teach children better behavior while cultivating enduring bonds with them. Each method is easy to internalize and use, such as the importance of limiting excessive verbosity used to communicate when a child is naughty (an estimated “one word per year of life” sentence structure is recommended when communicating parental displeasure), the giving an immediate consequence for unacceptable behavior, refraining from yelling at children, and refraining from giving warnings, which only reinforce the idea that obedience is not required the first time a child is given an instruction. In addition to useful strategies, Mini Methods or Madness also offers a plain-terms overview of why these techniques work and why other methods such as negotiating with or bribing children, or continually repeating instructions without enforcing consequences, rarely have the desired effect of improving behavior or teaching children the self-control and discipline they will need as adults. Enthusiastically recommended for parents, babysitters, and anyone who works with children on a professional or personal basis.
Rating: 5 / 5

]]> http://helpwithkidsbehavior.com/pillow-talk-loving-affirmations-to-encourage-and-guide-your-children/comment-page-1#comment-39 Marie VanVacter Tue, 01 Dec 2009 13:23:49 +0000 http://helpwithkidsbehavior.com/pillow-talk-loving-affirmations-to-encourage-and-guide-your-children#comment-39 This is a great parenting book! Well written and beautifully illustrated. It explains the technique of using positive affirmation with children to improve communication and create positive attitudes and behavior. The author gives step by step examples that have worked with her children and reports the changes in their behavior.It gets 5 stars from me!!! Rating: 5 / 5 This is a great parenting book! Well written and beautifully illustrated. It explains the technique of using positive affirmation with children to improve communication and create positive attitudes and behavior. The author gives step by step examples that have worked with her children and reports the changes in their behavior.It gets 5 stars from me!!!
Rating: 5 / 5

]]> http://helpwithkidsbehavior.com/pillow-talk-loving-affirmations-to-encourage-and-guide-your-children/comment-page-1#comment-38 Rev. Gary Langston Tue, 01 Dec 2009 11:11:18 +0000 http://helpwithkidsbehavior.com/pillow-talk-loving-affirmations-to-encourage-and-guide-your-children#comment-38 This book is an excellent guide for parents to use in raising their children in a loving and supportive atmosphere. The process that Nancy shares is quite effective and the book is well worth having on hand. Rating: 5 / 5 This book is an excellent guide for parents to use in raising their children in a loving and supportive atmosphere. The process that Nancy shares is quite effective and the book is well worth having on hand.
Rating: 5 / 5

]]> http://helpwithkidsbehavior.com/the-strong-willed-child/comment-page-1#comment-37 Cheryl E. Mansfield Wed, 25 Nov 2009 17:38:02 +0000 http://helpwithkidsbehavior.com/the-strong-willed-child#comment-37 Frankly, Dr. Dobson should share with his readers that most of his "opinions" are based on biblical stories. I find it offensive that I was searching for answers to questions directly related to a "strong willed child" and he saw fit to constantly "quote the bible". At a minimum - this should be disclosed to the interested individual prior to purchasing the book (such as on the back cover). Not after! Rating: 2 / 5 Frankly, Dr. Dobson should share with his readers that most of his “opinions” are based on biblical stories. I find it offensive that I was searching for answers to questions directly related to a “strong willed child” and he saw fit to constantly “quote the bible”. At a minimum – this should be disclosed to the interested individual prior to purchasing the book (such as on the back cover). Not after!
Rating: 2 / 5

]]> http://helpwithkidsbehavior.com/the-strong-willed-child/comment-page-1#comment-36 Anonymous Wed, 25 Nov 2009 16:54:25 +0000 http://helpwithkidsbehavior.com/the-strong-willed-child#comment-36 I am floored that this kind of advice is actually praised by some people. This book is nothing more than a platform for hitting your child; it is truly sickening. Dobson does nothing more than rationalize spanking, and why it is "necessary." I shudder to think of all the children being spanked with switches or wooden spoons because their parents bought this book and bought into his so called Christian-based advice. This book is going directly into the trash can, because I wouldn't even give it away. Rating: 1 / 5 I am floored that this kind of advice is actually praised by some people. This book is nothing more than a platform for hitting your child; it is truly sickening. Dobson does nothing more than rationalize spanking, and why it is “necessary.” I shudder to think of all the children being spanked with switches or wooden spoons because their parents bought this book and bought into his so called Christian-based advice. This book is going directly into the trash can, because I wouldn’t even give it away.
Rating: 1 / 5

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